When I was a young girl my mother used to say, “Don’t swing your purse, it makes you look like a bar-fly!”. “What’s a bar-fly“, I thought? I was only 12 and so you can imagine the kinds of thoughts that went through my head. Truthfully, I thought a bar-fly was some kind of insect (I was very naive in those days). And a “bar“? I couldn’t tell you what that was.
I am old enough to remember televised Viet Nam protests. And changing the channel would take you directly to the “burn your bra” barrels. I didn’t really understand any of this. I didn’t even know what a bra was! Although some people might think of those days as the beginning of the liberation of women and the birth of feminism, it goes back a lot further than that.
Since the beginning of time, women have been fighting the natural order of creation ~ beginning with Eve. Now that’s not to say that Eve is soley responsible for bringing sin into the world. It was not Eve who bore the tresspass of this offense. As stated in Romans 5:12-14,
“Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned – for sin indeed was in the world before the law was given, but sin is not counted where there is no law. Yet, death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over those whose sinning was not like the transgression of Adam, who was a type of the one who was to come.”
And this is because of the natural order in which God created the world. Adam took the responsibility for Eve’s disobedience. This is not to say that man was created a “higher” or more valuable being than woman. Man was created to be the head of the woman. Ephesians 5:22-24 says,
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its savior. Now as the church
submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”
Submission… what exactly does that mean? It is not “ownership”, it is not “slavery”, it is not the right to abuse. Ephesians 5:25-30 says,
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife, loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the Church, because we are members of his body.”
And further down, Ephesians 5:33 says,
“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
That doesn’t sound at all like ownership, slavery, or abuse to me. For in this scripture, God places equal value and worth on the husband and wife. But the husband is to be the head of the wife, and the wife to respect her husband. What’s so bad about that? Nothing, I say. What wife doesn’t want to be loved in such a way by her own husband? It is an honor to be loved in this way. And God has established this as the natural order of creation from the Garden of Eden. In Genesis 2:18 God says,
“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make him a helper fit for him’.”
So women are not “beneath” men in creation, just second in creation. Woman was made to be a suitable helper fit for man. Again, what woman would not want to be honored, loved, suitable, and fit to her husband in this way? Likewise, I Corinthians 11:3 says,
“But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.”
No matter whether or not you consider yourself to be a feminist, there is no denying that someone has to be in charge. In charge at work, in charge at home, in charge of county, city, state, country, and all government; in charge in worship, and in charge of all creation. Scripture has laid out the answer in the most plain and simple way for us.
Still, corrupt human nature, in it’s rebellion against God wants to be “in charge”. And it’s not only men. Women are equally guilty. Feminists not only want to be in charge, they want to be superior. And it is this desire to be unscripturally equal, even superior, that has damaged the family core. In the heights of selfishness, feminists are so busy taking care of their own wants and interests that they have lost all sense of balance within the family. They have sacrificed the emotional, spiritual, and mental wellbeing of their own families. Look around. Our children are evidence of this.
Feminism has become its own religion. And it didn’t happen overnight. No matter how it is presented or disguised, the rebellion of feminism is pure rebellion against God, not men. Although Feminism presents itself as independence from man, and reliance upon self, it is, in truth rebellion against God, the creator of all things, and Jesus Christ, True Man and True God. Feminism seeks to immasculate God with it’s prayers to a non-gendered “mother/father god”. Unfortunately, the feminist does not see that this is a prescription for bondage, disaster, and failure. It is also a prescription for spiritual, and yes, even mental illness. Feminism takes away a woman’s God-given place of honor and respect in the natural order of things, and replaces it with rebellious self-destruction.
The main concern of feminism is disguised as “equal rights”. Rights to financial, social, political, and economic “freedom”. Freedom from dependence upon men in any way, shape, or form (with the exception of careless sex on demand). Freedom from the balance of truly loving relationships with men in marriage. Selfish freedom from children that might result from careless sexual relationships with men, through the legal choice to destroy life within the womb. Freedom to choose other women over men as their mates. These so called “freedoms” are all contrary to the natural order in which God created the world and mankind. This is sin ~ all of it. And it doesn’t end there. Sadly, feminism is based on a deep underlying hatred for the authority of God and men.
The contented, fulfilled woman is the woman who retains the role God gave her at creation and the beginning of time. This does not mean that “a woman’s place is in the home”. Just as this also does not mean that the woman who chooses to be in the home is of lesser socioeconomic or personal worth. Consider the woman described in Proverbs 31: 10-31. She is a wife and a mother. She is loved by her husband and “she is far more precious than jewels” (Proverbs 10:31). Her husband trusts her. She is good to him and for him. She works, she is not lazy. She is a smart and successful business woman and she provides food for her family. She is beautifully dressed. She gives to the poor and is prepared for anything. Likewise, her family is well dressed. Her husband is proud of her. He holds a place of honor in the community and is well known because of her deeds. She is strong and dignified. She is kind and wise. She is more excellent than any woman. Her children call her blessed and her husband praises her. She fears the Lord.
So you see, a woman can function in the role God created for her and be successful in the home without compromising any of the “freedoms” that feminism proclaims. This woman has greater freedom than any feminist. This is the woman that feminists secretly long to be. But they will never admit it.